Sunday, August 31, 2014
You know the story....guy wins over girl through gifts, or love notes, or long walks in the park. Then after they get married and have been married a year....reality sets in. "You never give me gifts anymore. When can we spend time together? Remember, when you used to write me notes? Yah, those were the days..." Now, it's not that either person has stopped loving the other, or that they stopped caring. It's just that we don't know how, at least not in a way our loved one will receive it. This summer, I read "The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman. Now, of course, I started thinking through the people I know and analyzing their language. :-) My siblings? Definitely quality time, just like my parents. :-) Big surprise, I know. So, in case you haven't heard them, here they are: 1. Quality time: spending intentional time with someone, or even just being together in a project. 2. Physical Touch: hugs, a pat on the back, a high five for a good job, holding hands/ 3. Acts of Service: taking out the trash, washing the dishes, helping someone carry something 4. Words of Affirmation: encouragement, verbally affirming their good qualities, appreciative words, notes. 5. Gifts: small gifts to let them know you were thinking of them, flowers generally fit this.